The Path to Love: AMA

There is no one magic key to unlock healthy love but instead a three-step series of activities I call Attend, Mend, and Ascend, or AMA for short (ama is the command form of “to love” in Spanish, which is a fun reminder of the larger goal).

When we attend, we learn what healthy love looks like, where it comes from, and how it benefits us and others. We also begin to notice where we personally stand in relation to it: our habits, patterns, and blind spots.

Once we have attended to love, we can mend by changing the thoughts and behaviors that limit our ability to love ourselves and others in healthy and positive ways.

Finally, we ascend by noticing, savoring, and celebrating the joy that love brings. This final step is about expansion: allowing love to infuse more of our lives and to ripple outward into the world, benefitting all of us.

Throughout the book, you will find evidence-based practices that help you attend, mend, and ascend—practical tools for growing love in every direction.